That’s right 1+1+2022 = 6 and according to Numerology.com the number 6 is the embodiment of the heart. It represents unconditional love and the ability to support, nurture, and heal. It is a powerful force of compassion and empathy and its warm light is a beacon of hope. Its role is to use its heart and soul to be of service to others and ourselves.

The 6 in Numerology shines in partnerships of all kinds but especially emotional ones. Its empathy makes others comfortable letting down their guard and being open and honest about their feelings which, in turn, allows it to understand and provide the help that’s needed. We could all use someone in our life who manifests the devoted energy of the 6, but after the year we have had, how do we open back up, be vulnerable and begin caring more about each other without judgment?

It’s really important to understand that everyone in our life is there to teach us something about ourselves! So, our number one priority is to learn something new ourselves so we can be better human beings. Of course that means being willing to see your own faults and be willing to grow emotionally as well as intellectually. One thing that might help is to remember we can’t give what we don’t have inside or have in our human tool bags. If you weren’t loved, you may not know how to give love. If you weren’t forgiven you may not be able to forgive. Be willing to forgive yourself and the people who don’t have the tools to do it better and find out how we can improve our own sense of humanity, forgiveness and acceptance. After all, without those people who get to us and stir us up, how can we develop our own ability to forgive, forget and move on?

So step one, is taking a moment to identify the ways in which you want to change. For instance if you want to be a better friend or parent, take a moment to list the things that prevent you from doing that and decide what you need to begin the process of healing those issue.

Take action about the issue with a class, a book on the issue, doing some research on line or talking with a friend you feel has developed those skills. Remember to not be hard on yourself. Acknowledge the things you have overcome in your life and give yourself credit. Too often we beat ourselves up with guilt and shame which leaves very little room for growth or compassion. Just notice your strengths and weakness with understanding, in the same way you would if you were speaking to your friend about his or her issues.

Once you are clear on your issues, set goals that are attainable. Maybe you want to listen to your friends or kids better. Make a list of open-ended questions that you can ask to keep the conversation going such as, “What did that make you feel,” or How did you decide to handle that?” Then be accountable. Be willing to see whether you are making progress and if not look for what it is that prevents you and remove the road block to your own growth. Ask yourself what your fear or belief is about the issue and be willing to change or release that which no longer serves you.

Or if you want to practice forgiving, the next time the judgment comes up in you, silently begin to wonder about that person and what he or she must have gone through that makes him or her the way they are. That thought alone will help you get to compassion.

These may seem like little things but now is the time for all of us to take the focus off what is going on out there and bring it back to what is going on in here. If each of us make it our business to change what is in our own hearts and minds, the world can and will become a better place. And we really need to do that now and let’s do it together!

Dr. Evan is a marriage, family, child therapist and consciousness counselor. She has presented nationwide seminars and workshops, written several books and created meditation CDs for couples, individual and mental health professionals. She has won national acclaim as a human rights advocate. Visit drdinaevan.com or call 602-571-8228.